The Rings.....Though It Wont Ring.....

A year of our wedding and all the klutz that we have shared Raminku decided to suprise me with these pair of rings as a gift. Well actually its not a surprise since i knew before he gave it to me on January hihihi. Thats me Lil Missy of Impatient i begged him to tell me the surprise eventhough i wont be able to have it till he comes here in Surabaya.

.....masyaAllah thank You Ya Rabb for these happiness.

Who? Me? Naaaah......

Due to my hectic life lately *pose as the busiest lil lady on the Earth* i dont have a time to update with a lot of rants that i would like to share with You my lovelies. Especially actually i do have so much rants to be shared hihihihi *rolling the eyes with rolling drum's sound pwease*

For starter, i just realise, again that Surabaya my beloved city is still thick with racism, a filthy word that i hate with all my might. Come on my Lovelies, this is 2013, a new era has came upon us. Many histories have shown us how are the effects of this stupid act. But somehow the doers *insert jaw dropping emo* are young people who are so snooty bout any kind of hot stuff but somehow their acts are still following those people who did have this racism\s mind in previous era. Okay i know the concept in psychology that is stating that somehow the brain of human can create a defensive shield when they feel cornered, offended or even not knowing something. But why dont we learn something from others rather than starting to be suspicious all the time that influence Your way of seeing others.

It started when i joined this German's course as one of the requirements to apply a wifey visa to go to German. In here i met many young people who are half of my age. At the beginning i thought they didnt want to sit or even talk with me because of my age *i am twice their ages hihihi* but then some of the students are okay in talking and sitting with me. Then in my curiosity way, i approached those no-speaking kids. I tried to open a conversation with them. As You predict, yups they ignored me *jlebmoment* eventhough i called their names before i started the conversation. But somehow they just simply ignored me like i wasnt even there hihihi. In which it is quite impossible seeing how huge my person is.

After those expi i realised that even the seating positions in my class are divided by them based on skin colors then religion. Wow.....kiddooooos You are still young but You have adapted the most horrible character on this Earth, racism. Too bad they do not realise that i am actually also the same ethnic with them, but it does not show. This is a sad story that always makes me cry when people start to think of themselves better or even above the others. Do not they realise that their good fortune; health, wealth and others are blessed not only because of their own efforts? It is also coming from the prayers of other people *in Moslem we do pray for all the mankind on every prayer*  and their own ancestors. And if Allah wants us to be the same to avoid problems or differences, He will definitely create us thus way.....


A good poem that i got from Bie, my brother in law, a nice poem by Derek Walcott:

I'm just a red nigger who love the sea,
I had a sound colonial education,
I have Dutch, nigger, and English in me,
and either I'm nobody, or I'm a nation.

Lyke Li - I Follow River

Me and my hubby put ouself in these honorable tasks to spread out these beautiful songs, so help us pwease by spreading them hihi.

And this jumpy and happy tone

I Think I Am Lost

Have You ever felt lost in the translation when You are in out of hand situation? 
Definitely it is a creepy event
Though it does not need an action
But somehow it breaks my defense

Being lost and false in the short is not the expie You need to have
Believe me, as often as i am wrong, in this case i am right

I think i am lost
And i am false
To thought its right
Since it is only a bunch of light, that cant even be tied

Talking With Sasi

It has been ages since i met Sasi in real life but somehow we always connected in all the time in our lives. I met her in 99. The border year from my study age into a worker in a big company, since before that year i was only a private teacher. She shows me a lot of things in life that i never realize ever happened. Her stories and experience always amaze me. But pwease do not think that we are so buddy buddy in real life. If You read my writing in the beginning, we are more to be a bosom buddies when we are afar. When she is in Spain and i am in my tinny room in Surabaya, Indonesia. Funny huh? But that is us. If You ask me who do i trust my life with outside of my hubby and family, her name will pop up 1st from my mouth. That is to show You my lovelies that sometime love and friendship do not see distance and differences. 

Believe me we are so different in almost every lil thing in life but we only have 1 thing in common, it is love. Love toward our self in which will show how we love and treat each other and other people. Remember bout karma, what You do will definitely comes to Yourself. Just keep on hoping the one which will come is the good one hihihi. Love toward His creatures and creations. It is showing on how we respect everything on this earth. Love in helping without being too butt in on others.Now that is quite difficult right? I remember not too long ago we did have our 1st serious butting the heads. It was because she asked me to do something that i did not want to. And in the end all her worries that made her to be so persistent in asking me to do it, are right. But alhamdulillah subhanAllah my Sasi did not even smirk or gloat to say, "What did i tell You nee? I am right!" She was even crying and praying with me on that sad moment when i realized that a swollen in my tummy that i thought was a baby, actually are cysts and polip. MasyaAllah.....

We have been through all, right Si? InsyaAllah it will continue for the next life also, amien. 

    

SKYPE or EPYKS

Living far away from my hubby makes our relationship considered as an LDR - Long Distance Relationship and it is quite a tricky way to communicate in the easiest, cheapest and unstoppable way. Hihihi it sounds like a jargon of a company right? Though honestly it does not feel that way. It is more like a hair pulling situation where we must depend on the unstable thing that is called internet connection. Why it is unstable? Because it is unstable *rolling the eyes for obvious reasons*

So in these 11 months of our relationship we used all the communication ways that are available there. In which SKYPE was our 1st choice after emails and texting were not enough for us. For sometimes it did cover our needs in seeing each other in the easiest and cheapest way. Although sometimes in their weakest moment i believe SKYPE was like an Uncle Scrooge that tries to squint his beady eyes toward our relationship and makes a havoc in it by giving problems in our connections or other disruptions.

After some times of being patient with SKYPE especially since they launched the new update in my Android-phone, we almost cant use the receive button in calling grrrr- i found these VoIP choices to be an alternative for You my lovelies in having a communication with people from other countries or distant places. At this moment i am about to try to use Google Hangouts. Lets see about its abilities in serving a free communication in VoIP way.  

Please check this site to know more about other VoIPs that are available as an alternative than SKYPE.

http://www.makeuseof.com/tag/fed-up-with-skype-here-are-6-of-the-best-free-alternatives/

How Is The Procedure To Get A CNI Letter To Marry A German Citizen (CNI Part 1)

Intro Strawberries

Hi lovelies, i know that i have put these kinds of information in my blog few times ago. But somehow with my strawberries' shrubs inside of my head all the information from the blogs, sites, even from friends were being translated into encrypted codes that i have not gotten the idea how they will be de-coded into my normal language. Hmmm now You do understand how my desperate brain calls desperate action. And these are the results of my try and error in doing the process of CNI-Certificate of No Impediment or Certificate of Legal Capacity.

Do remember i made this blog on August 2013, there might be some changes in the future or even now, that i do not know about, please kindly inform me for helping others with these horrendous process.

First of all as a bride or a groom to be from Indonesia, You my lovelies, must achieve this CNI letter. You can get it from Indonesia but me and my hubby choose the process in getting it from German since it is cheaper and the doer does not need to go to Capitol to process it. Different with Indonesia's bureaucracy, we need to go back forward from our hometown to Jakarta for any legalization process. And i believe this might take time, energy, money and most of all Your heart.

What is a CNI letter? CNI is The Certificate of No Impediment to marriage or in simple words it is a letter to certify that the bride or the groom to be from different countries can held the marriage ceremony legally with You and can be ensured to be acknowledged by both countries. In this case we have to be sure bout the requirement of this letter since not all countries in the world request CNI for any interracial marriage. But if You are marrying German citizens, yes this is one of the requirements.

Remember my lovelies, not all countries require this CNI letter. So if You are planning Your marriage with a foreigner, first thing You have to check is their official website from the country. Do find the part about interracial marriage. Then You can move on by checking the rules in our Indonesian's Foreign Ministry website about the wedding between You and Your intended. And pweaseeee if Your spouse to be is an Indonesian, do skip in reading these mumble jumbles hihihi.

Papers To Be Prepared For Indonesian's Citizen

Now we go on to the headaches process. All the process and papers to be prepared. One thing is for sure, let Yourself feel relax when You fall due to the pressures and difficulties. I am here for You and let Your loved one know the grueling process. Definitely the old phrase No Pain No Gain is appropriate for these thingies.

Without any ado, please be ready with:

1. Birth Certificate (they will ask the newest edition not least than 6 months period, and it might be difficult in here to get it since Indonesian's Government does not issue again and again the birth certificate. Hmmm do You think we can pretend to be re-born hihihi)
2. A single status letter (*
3. A domisili letter (**
4. A letter of N1, N2, and N4 (***
5. Passport

Process To Be Done In Your City

We can do these letters below by using 1 letter from RT/RW but please ask them to mention all the letters that You need to make. It will definitely cut the times and hassles. Remember, put all the letter names on it; a domisili letter with the specimen letter from Kelurahan, a single status, N1, N2 and N4. Mayhap they wont ask You to write in details like what i wrote above. But incase they are asking like in my area, it will be easier if You get the letter(s) from RT/RW in one go.

A single status letter

To get this letter we need to:

1. We go to RT by bringing KSK and ID-Card the real documents and the copies. And ask them to issue the letter for Pengurusan Pernikahan.

2. Then we go to RW to get the legalization of the letter.

3. After that we bring the letter and go to Kelurahan and they will issue A Single Status Letter for us. Off course there will be some silly questions about why and the reasons for making it, but be cool, calm and confidence and envelope with some money inside will definitely smoothed the awkward moments.  

4. After You get the letter, please go to KUA that is in the same jurisdiction with Your ID-Card.

5. Please tell them once again why do You need the letter. Since the letter is confirmed by Kelurahan based on our data but it must be issued and legalized (3 copies) by the authority KUA. Do not accept their lame explanation that the letter from Kelurahan is enough, and they just need to put a stamp and sign it. We spent some money for that silly notion from Surabaya to Jakarta. But alhamdulillah subhanAllah we found some enlightenment and entertainments there hihihi.  

A domisili letter with a specimen letter

1. We go to RT by bringing KSK and ID-Card the real documents and the copies. And ask them to issue the letter for Pengurusan Pernikahan.

2. Then we go to RW to get the legalization of the letter.

3. After that we bring the letter from RT/RW and go to Kelurahan. In Kelurahan they will issue the Letter of Domisili and the specimen* for us. Off course there will always be some silly questions about why and the reasons for making it, but be cool, calm and confidence and envelope with some money inside will definitely smoothed the awkward moments.
4. We must copy the letter 3x and ask them to legalize and stamp them.

* specimen is a letter with the head letter of the institution (in here it is Kelurahan) to certify the name(s), paraf and signature on the domisili letter are valid. I will give You more info bout it when You need it.

N1, N2, and N4 Letters

1. We go to RT by bringing KSK and ID-Card the real documents and the copies. And ask them to issue the letter of RT/RW for Pengurusan Pernikahan.

2. Then we go to RW to get the legalization of the letter.

3. After that we take the letter from RT/RW and go to Kelurahan. In Kelurahan they will issue those N1, N2 and N4 letters for us. Off course there will be some questions about why and the reasons for making it, just answer as straight as You can. Because it is no use in showing a temper with them, it might put You in a bad light.
These letters will be needed again for asking permition to marry in KUA for further process.

  

Process To Be Done In Jakarta

In Jakarta basicaly we need to get all the original papers to be signed, stamped and legalised or to have another papers to be issued by one of these Government offices. And some of them need to be translated first before we can ask the legalisation process as above.

1. Bring all Your papers above with the ID-Card, Birth Certificate and Passport with their copies. Always separete the copies from the real thingies. Make it sure each original papers have been copied 3x. Do not forget to bring all the data of Your spouse to be; birth certificate, passport and single status (copies and the original if You can, if Your intended is not in Indonesia do bring the copies only, who knows they can forego the thing right?). 

2. Bring Your KUA single status letter to Department of Religion in Jakarta to get a legalization at MH. Thamrin No 6 Jakarta Pusat  Telephone - (021) 392-0245 (Bagian Kepenghuluan on 7th Floor) Working Hours at 08:00 - 15:00 Monday - Friday

Beware if Your intended is a non-moslem that becomes a muallaf, it must be proven that he / she has a moslem certificate that You can show. In my case because my hubby is a moslem and in German there is none whatsoever of legal documents can stated someone's religion, it was quite difficult to make the office agreed in legalizing my documents. Until somehow i could produce the copies of his itinerary for his ticket to go home from Malaysian Airlines. There it stated that he is a moslem. Alhamdulillah right my lovelies, rather than their solution to bring him from German to Jakarta goooosh....sometimes i wonder who is the strawberries' head in here. Me or them *pouting and sulking*

3. Bring KUA letter that has been legalized by Department of Religion, Domisili letter plus the specimen, and other letters in Ministry of Justice to get admission and legalization. In here all Your documents need to be legalised. Mind You that they will legalise the original one. Not the copies. The office is at HR. Rasuna Said  Kuningan, Jakarta Selatan

4. After that bring all the papers in Ministry of Foreign Affair at Ditjen Protokol dan Konsuler, Direktorat Konsuler, Subdirektorat"Clearance and Legalisation" Taman Pejambon No 6  Jakarta Pusat. This visit is definitely not a social visitation lol since it is once again to get legalisation from this office, saying that You my lovelies is ready with all Your Indonesian's papers to continue to the next part.

5. Then bring all the papers in German's Embassy (Consular Departement  At MH. Thamrin No 1 Jakarta Pusat (next to Mandarin Hotel) Visitation hours 08:00 - 11:30 am  Monday - Friday  021-390-1750 / 3989-9591  

They will tell You which papers or documents that needs to be translated into German. It will cost You 25,00 - 45,00 Euro but please paid in Rupiah.

After those process are done, then send all the documents to Your spouse to be so he/she can continue the process in making CNI.

In case You are a widower or a widow / a divorce or divorcee, You need to legalize Your Surat Cerai (Divorce Paper) and Surat Keputusan Cerai (Divorce Decision) in Mahkamah Agung at Direktorat Jenderal Peradilan Agama Gedung Bersama Satu Atap Mahkamah Agung RI Ahmad Yani Kav 58 By Pass Jakarta Pusat 021- 390-7050 

    

Notes - in the end after i knew all these information, due to my limited time and finance, we choose to contact a nice and lovely lady who is doing these thingies as her job. Do ask me about her if You think You might need her service. I have asked her to spread out her service. So just contact me for her info. And insyaAllah it will be barokallah. Alhamdulillah she is amanah and honest. May Allah bless her and her family for helping many couples with these process.
And please do save some copies for every paper that You have made for You might need it for next process.

ano note
The Original of CNI must not be given to any department for You will need it for the legalization part of Your Marriage Books next time.
Annnnnnd CNI is actually a paper to be shown to Embassy of Germany for them to issue the Permit Marriage Letter. In which this last paper is needed for Your marriage process in KUA. Once again dont give the real one, give the copy with the legalisation or try like what we did, we gave the scanned part. Because in legalization process of Your marriage books in Depag Jakarta they ask this original letter. While actually KUA for Your ceremony also need the real one bwahahaha....what a messy rules.